Yeah this is probably going to be the most controversial topic I have decided to post on this blog so far but it needs to be talked about. There are good and bad parts to engaging in the sexual aspects of Second Life. I have learned a lot of what I want to discuss from experience in the past year on this realm. Sadly the downsides of sex on this realm are brought about by people who think that doing another person's pixels is some sort of fun and games. Believe me when I tell you that simply having sex with another pixel on here can feel quite similar to the hellish way one feels when they have a one-night stand. Yes there are escorts who make a living on here basically sexually gratifying another but I personally think it is a waste of resources to go that route. I know some people will take offense to me saying that so go ahead and get upset. Remember these are my opinions in the end. You can have approximately 30 minutes or more of sex on here which it takes a good amount of typing to actually get any gratification from it unless you voicing but that is another topic altogether. Second Life sex is basically cyber sex except you have pixels acting out what you type out. I admit that being on poseballs with another pixel can be quite erotic. However if emotions ain't in it then its just senseless rolling in the hay so to speak. I have been with a few men since my very first month in this realm but unless both of the people behind the pixels love each other where it has been expressed in either words or actions then you will find yourself feeling empty or like crap or both. It is what i call "intimacy" online where two souls interact in those sexual acts on here with the love behind it. Most of the sexual encounters I have had without love involved I had ended up regretting. I have to be honest about that. At some point the men I have been with will read this and be like what the hell to the words I have said but let's face it they didn't feel nothing for me on their end either. No this is not some sort of revenge trip. I have no reason to write such revenge stuff because I am in all honesty fully with my current guy. Temptations that run by me are just that and every day that passes I cling to the love I do have while I hope that I never give into frivolous temptations ever again. I respect the lives of those I have done sexual encounters with in the past but what is past is past and I am sure those men feel the same way.
Some people on Second Life have been through so much pains in relationships that they do turn to the same sex now. I actually can see why they do. When you are with someone of your same sex in this realm then in many ways you get the understanding behind it of how it feels to have been hurt or used. I am not speaking of people who have always been homosexual or bisexual. Rather I am talking about those who just get tired of the games when they were with the opposite sex. Sometimes it is just easier to be with someone who is the same as you in even the physical sense. Even in those circumstances they don't want to be used for sex in any way because in the end it doesn't feel good inside for the soul. Again just my opinion on that subject.
For a long time, I became very distraught about letting a man close to my heart in this realm since let's face it I was hurt from my very start on here. I don't feel like going into details but let's just say that it took a kind bdsm Master for months to make me see that I deserve better not only on Second Life but in real life as well. When you around someone of the attracted gender of your liking who doesn't see you as some pixel sexual object then it changes you in a massive way. Unfortunately, that doesn't stop the gender you desire from doing their best to wiggle their way into your virtual bed. I guess it is a lot like when you in a bar in real life where you are drunk and some handsome dude comes up to you talking all sweet until he gets you to take him back to your place, his place, or a hotel room. Guess what though, you have to sober up in the morning and face yourself in the mirror. The question is: what do you want to see in that mirror the next morning? Personally, I'd rather be able to hold my head up and face myself straight on in the mirror instead of feeling awful for doing some stupid sexual act with someone who don't give a rat's butt about me. One thing people have to decide when they come on Second Life is if they want love from others or if they want to run around having nothing but fun. Only time this realm is fun with no emotions is when you do nothing but roleplay on here or unless you some tinman with no heart. Remember though, if you make mistakes along the way then chalk it up as just that and move forward since it is better for everyone involved in whatever mistakes you make.
Some people on Second Life have been through so much pains in relationships that they do turn to the same sex now. I actually can see why they do. When you are with someone of your same sex in this realm then in many ways you get the understanding behind it of how it feels to have been hurt or used. I am not speaking of people who have always been homosexual or bisexual. Rather I am talking about those who just get tired of the games when they were with the opposite sex. Sometimes it is just easier to be with someone who is the same as you in even the physical sense. Even in those circumstances they don't want to be used for sex in any way because in the end it doesn't feel good inside for the soul. Again just my opinion on that subject.
For a long time, I became very distraught about letting a man close to my heart in this realm since let's face it I was hurt from my very start on here. I don't feel like going into details but let's just say that it took a kind bdsm Master for months to make me see that I deserve better not only on Second Life but in real life as well. When you around someone of the attracted gender of your liking who doesn't see you as some pixel sexual object then it changes you in a massive way. Unfortunately, that doesn't stop the gender you desire from doing their best to wiggle their way into your virtual bed. I guess it is a lot like when you in a bar in real life where you are drunk and some handsome dude comes up to you talking all sweet until he gets you to take him back to your place, his place, or a hotel room. Guess what though, you have to sober up in the morning and face yourself in the mirror. The question is: what do you want to see in that mirror the next morning? Personally, I'd rather be able to hold my head up and face myself straight on in the mirror instead of feeling awful for doing some stupid sexual act with someone who don't give a rat's butt about me. One thing people have to decide when they come on Second Life is if they want love from others or if they want to run around having nothing but fun. Only time this realm is fun with no emotions is when you do nothing but roleplay on here or unless you some tinman with no heart. Remember though, if you make mistakes along the way then chalk it up as just that and move forward since it is better for everyone involved in whatever mistakes you make.
All written in this post are pure opinions and not attacks on anyone so no hate messages now please. I let everyone on Second Life live whatever lives they choose to lead on there. Unless you mess with my life on there then we have a serious problem. Simply think of this blog as just that and you can close the window to think of all I say as stupid if you not like it.
I think you are awesome to say out loud what a lot of women feel.
ReplyDeleteThe idea that women crave love and attention so much that they will become non-negotiated slaves to a man sickens me! So many gor sims and other women as "sex toy" areas in Second Life.
Thanks for saying it.
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most welcome...i can be opinionated and in the last year i have lived so much in SL to last a lifetime...its so easy to give into the sexual needs on SL if you feel lonely or such that sadly some men use that to their advantage...i have seen it first hand in my life on SL...i feel it better for me to voice what i been through than to bottle it up to fester inside me
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